You were so attached to him because you are only human and you really do need to feel excepted and loved. All I can say from my own experience is that they dont have any love to give you. I believe we are searching for that thing in them that we never really got from childhood or infancy. ITs called anxious attachment. From what I have read about attachment problems with the mother, causes most future relationship problems we may encounter in life. I am no expert but have really been searching into this to help heal all those old wounds. Its no ones fault. Not everyone grows up in a family feeling 100% loved and securely attached. I feel this is the root to my problem as I cant put it to anything else. Family is everything. Its just a matter of unlearning those anxious, clingy, addictive behaviours that never really got us love that we desperatly needed.
I found this out by reading the book "Anxious to Please"
A lot of relationship patterns begin when we are children and even earlier
|
Prev Message
