I once had a female "N" supervisor, whose husband died suddenly and unexpectedly 6 months after my dear Mom passed away suddenly and unexpectedly.

 

Although my "N" boss went to my Mom's funeral, she had absolutely NO sympathy or empathy for me while I was at work.  As far as my "N" boss was concerned, it was "bullying (er, business) as usual"  for me.

 

Did I go to her husband's funeral?  Nope.  I did tell her that I was sorry for her loss and gave her some "grief " books to read (that helped me when my Mom passed away).  She told me that she gave the books to her adult daughter.