MFAL, I replied to your post on the new board, but I see you've added a bit to this post.
May I put my two cents worth in again?
You say, "I feel like he's just punishing me for rejecting him..." Well, of course he is! You inflicted an N injury on him. He is going to strike back. That is what Ns do! If you keep seeing him and interacting with him, you will either go back to him for more of the same, or you will continue to inflict N injuries on him because you *don't* go back. An injured N is a dangerous N. This guy has nothing but time. The longer you hang around in the same places, the more he will up the ante. He has nothing to lose. You do.
I know you don't want to leave your club, but you know what? Sometimes you have to choose the lesser of two evils. This guy is unstable and possibly dangerous (certainly to your reputation if not to your very life). There is a price to pay for tangling with these creatures (and the more time you put into it, the higher the price). Leaving a club you like to preserve your reputation (and possibly your freedom, if he keeps running to the cops) is a small price to pay for tangling with an N for two years.
You ask, "I'm not interested in someone so that makes me a stalker?" It sounds to me like you are VERY interested in this guy. You posted two long messages about him on both boards this morning. You think about him. A lot. All that business of you calling him, texting him, him not returning your calls or texts. He tells you you are abusive and crazy and yet you go on to leave him a long voice mail? Why would you not take the hint and leave him alone?
You know he's an N. I know he's an N. And I know full well how crazymaking Ns can be... but the cops don't know he's an N. If he saves the texts he considers "abusive" and plays your long voice mails for the police, and tells them he doesn't return your calls or texts but "she just keeps on harassing me"... well, you see how this makes you look.
You can't act as though the NC rules don't apply to you and expect everything to work out well. He's either an N or he's not. If he's an N (and you've certainly convinced ME he is!), then NC is the only safe and sane way to peace and freedom. Going to the same places he goes is playing with the disordered N. Nothing good can possibly come of that.
Find a different chapter and go complete NC. You will be getting off easy. |
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