I wanted to see if any of the following sounds like NPD to any of you who actually know or have experienced it.

 

I'll make this as short as possible and just tell you I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years now. I know without a doubt he is suffering from some sort of personality disorder. Of course he says its all me but I apparently wasnt like this until I met him.

 

Ok, here it goes! He is controlling to an extreme, like no one I've ever known or heard of. It's control of even the slightest things like, where a bowl of cat food sits. The cat's food bowl MUST sit where he puts it, I didn't realize it was him who kept moving it, thinking it was one of the kids, I'd move it back to where it had sat for years. Only one day to discover he was the one moving it, I discovered this because he had what I call one of his "tantrums" calling me names, screaming, throwing things blah blah blah. And there are many many other stories like this one, just small things no one would think anything of cause him to have explosive anger.

He adores telling me, the kids and I are stupid illiterate idiots, even though he never managed to go further than the 8th grade in school, and when he quit at the end of his 8th grade year he was nearly 17! He will litterally tell me "you dumbasses only wish you were half as smart as me".

He will say shockingly hurtful things, sometimes I think so horrible it would even cause the devil to gasp. Like, he is glad our baby died, when it happened he was inconsolable but a year later in an effort to hurt me said he was glad? He will say terrible things about my dead mother, who he never even met.

He road rages, tries to run people down who clearly didnt mean to cut him off. Screams profanity at them, calls them fat or stupid or various other things. Things that maybe a normal person would honk or possibly yell, send him into a devilish rage.

Every "bad" thing that happens to him is my fault. When we decided to move in together, he moved to my home. He has been pulled over several times for speeding (he can never do the speed limit, it should be raised ya know) it's my fault he gets pulled over, if he hadnt moved to my hometown he wouldnt have been here at the precise time a cop was searching out speeding cars. The broken windshield in our car is my fault... had I not made him mad while he was in the car he wouldnt have punched it. But then had I not made him mad he wouldnt have broken the digital camera (stomped it into the floor which also broke a hole in the floor) he wouldnt have broken the dvd player, electric hedge trimmers, the grill, the entertainment center, holes in the doors and walls of nearly every room and on and on.

His reasoning for his rages..... If I had just done what I was told he wouldnt have to do and say those horrible things. I provoke him!

He avoids any and all responsible things even though I tell him due dates are near. He will put off until its too late then swear I didn't give him fair warning.

He is a chronic liar and over very stupid things, things a person would never dream of lieing about. Like recently all the cash that was in my purse was gone, I asked why he took everything I had. Of course he had no logical reason but said "I didnt spend any of it, its on the dresser" when in fact he had bought himself lunch with it and only mentioned that when I asked him for the money back and he didnt have the amount he took. He said "I'll have to owe you some" I asked why he would have to owe me if he hadnt spent any. And he says "well I did spend a little I just forgot". And this is a constant thing.

His memory is like that of an alzheimers patient, or his claims of not remembering anyway.

When I ask him something, ANYTHING, he acts as if I didn't even speak, he seldom replies. When I ask him to please answer me, he will swear up and down he answered I just didnt hear him. For a long time I thought "ok maybe my hearing isnt what it used to be" but now when I ask something, I stare dead at him to see if his lips move.. they DONT! but yet he still will swear he answers. Sometimes its as if I am not worthy of an answer.

He doesnt have one family member that he hasnt been in at least a verbal altercation with, this side of him is never shown to friends. It's a common thing to go to his family gatherings, in the back door and straight out the front because someone "ran their mouth" to him and pissed him off. Even though I have been within 2 ft of him and not heard anyone say anything offensive.

Sex with him is ALWAYS rough, sometimes its like he's acting out some violent fantasy. He never leaves me alone, 24/7 he's trying to have sex. But he is very affectionate although I'd almost swear the affection is only with the antisipation of sex.

He "punishes" me for my wrong doings, takes the car away from me, jerks out all phone lines, hides my debit card. He's broken EVERY gift he's ever given me. It never fails, he'll be mad within hours of giving me a gift and takes it back. Says I dont deserve "things".

If I ever EVER voice my opinion of something.. I'm running my mouth. If I ever question anything he does...I'm nosey.

Then there are statements that have no logic at all, my favorite of all is.... Our second child, a boy now 9 months old, is more related to him and his family. His mother, brother and nephews are closer blood relatives to MY son than I am... because genetically the fathers genes rule.

 

 

Now what I'd like to know is.. does any of this sound familiar of a N? My stories of this abusive bully could fill a book but you get the idea.