NARCISSISTIC_PERSONALITY

I've gone NC with my sister. Can't stand her lies about me. Tired of dealing with her. Yet, no matter how far away I go, someone informs me that she is still telling people about "Bad things I've done" and stirring up rumours about me etc. Apparently, she can't leave me alone. I tell them that I'm not interested in hearing about her lies. But, this is getting old. How do you go about permanently, and legally removing a narcissist from your life?

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From:

Alamobelle3

Sent: 15/05/2008 4:38 a.m.

By continuing to maintain strong boundaries - refusing to hear
about her and never responding to anything she does

change everything - nail every opening she has for contact

I deliberately offended my Nbrother complete NC almost two years and there will never be forgiveness on either side

Suits me to a tee .....................

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From:

friendsofcam1

Sent: 15/05/2008 5:50 a.m.

I think that is very clever to deliberately offend him to get rid of him. I'm not the type of person who likes to offend people. But, I can see that you are right. It's most definitely worth it.

How were you able to offend him enough that he took off? My sister is more of a stalker. If you offend her, I'm afraid that a few weeks will pass and she is at it again.

With my Narcissitic brother it was easy. He's so stuck on himself that all it took was my not calling him once on his birthday and listening to how wonderful he is. I just don't provide any "fill".

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From:

femfree

Sent: 16/05/2008 3:38 p.m.

HI FOC - it goes something like this - this is what you need to say to people...

"I need to interrupt you here, but I am going to have to stop any discussion with you about my sister and anything she says or does, as I have been advised that she is using this tactic to discredit me and involves other people to try to have contact with me. So, I need to stop this discussion and, unfortunately, should it continue, I've been advised to just hang up on anyone who does this."

stick to your guns on this. Keep it near your phone and if anybody tries to elaborate, repeat it word for word with no furhter explanation.

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From: laughingdragons

Sent: 15/07/2008 7:52 a.m.

I've been going through the same thing with my Nsis.

We live in different states, but she does live near some family members of my stepdads. My stepdad will talk to one of them and has to hear stories about my mom.

It amazes me how she can tell all these stories when we don't talk to her.

Not sure what my stepdad tells them, but I hope he tells them that we don't talk to her so how could she know anything about my mom or any of us for that matter.

I tell people that there are 2 sides to every story and they are only hearing one side. That and I don't talk to her so how can she know anything about me.

Other family members (besides stepdads family) now don't ask about her anymore at christmas. They used to ask every year.

Good luck just keep up the NC eventually they will stop. At least most of mine have. You can't worry about what others say. I always change the subject as fast as I can.

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