absolutely!
My dad's belief that nothing could be done with out him really crippled our ability to cope as adults. I *highly* recommend Dr. Laura. She became a sort of affirmation for me, and helped me realize that there is no one in my life that can affect me with out me letting them... She also talks a lot about cleaving to your new life, the one you have created with your husband. That sometimes you take bad habits with you into your new life... she taught me how to be accountable for my actions, it wasn't easy, but I am incredibly happy, and I know that until I did that I wouldn't have been. All the luck in the world. Tell your dad diplomatically ( no need to be a jerk like them) that you wish that you could accommodate him, but that you believe in cleaving to your husband and the sanctity of your new marriage, and that that is all the room you have in your house right now, then recommend some nice apartments on the other side of town. ALways be very firm and very polite. Keep your distance, and the experience will go easier for you. The only reason to yell at them is for you not them, and they will never give you that closure, ever!
Best wishes to you... Let me know if you have anymore questions! |
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