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i haven't been here in a while but am still fighting with N for custody and child support. but i had a small victory today which i wanted to share with you guys since reading your success stories has always given me hope in the past!
my attorney had filed a motion for N to pay my attorney fees since N has changed 4 attorneys in less than 6 months and it costs me money every time my lawyer has to bring the new attorneys up to speed. so we went in front of the judge and my lawyer asked for $10,000. the judge granted us $5,250 and said that he may grant us more after he looks at N's financial records. N is an attorney as well and makes a lot of money; but he claims that his net income last year was less than $13,000! the judge has asked N to disclose all his "expenses" so that we can find out where all his money goes. we are set for mediation in september and a final trial in october. hopefully the judge will see that N has been lying to the IRS as well!
so a small victory but a meaningful one because now N cannot keep getting away by lying about his expenses.
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Hi Newbie: That's so wonderful. I'm happy for you. It's really quite a large victory as attorney fees are rare. Stay Strong. Morgan |
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thanks morgan. i have another mediation coming up in september and then final trial is set for october. i just want this to be over...
how are you holding up? any word on that deposition?
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Newbie, That is awesome! It is nice to see a judge willing to hit them where it hurts for their own actions. God forbid an N has to fork over anything for anyone but themselves. |
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thanks trinity. looking back, i realize that this was a very lucky break. thanks to everyone here for their advice and encouragement. wouldn't have known how to move on otherwise...
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| I hope you are able to request a High Risk Mediator. |
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| | | From: Mamaloo | Sent: 23/10/2008 3:18 a.m. |
Hey Newbie
I was just perusing this board and was struck by how similar our circumstances are. I am a single mother and my ex is an attorney N too! Sorry for your troubles sister. I am relieved to hear that you had a successful outcome.
I am in the middle of a very contentious child custody case. My ex claims poverty as well although he owns two homes in very affluent areas. He has transferred his property to family members and has opened many shared bank accounts with his brothers.
He pays minimum child support, is a no show in our child's life but wants to maintain maximum control and undermine any decision I make. We have temporary orders in place and thus far he and his lawyer have succeeded in manipulating the system. He has even managed to play the victim.
Do you have any advice for me? I am having difficulty obtaining a lawyer that can outrun a narcissist and the god awful attorneys that represent them. |
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hi mamaloo,
sorry but just saw your posting. i'm really sorry that you are going thru this as well. the only advice i can give is to get the best attorney that you can afford. i've spent close to 75k so far and all i'm getting at the end is joint custody. i'm not happy w/ what we settled for, but N was asking for sole custody initially so i guess i'll come out ok in the end. i think. our divorce is supposed to be finalized on november 4. i'll keep my fingers crossed!
again, get a v. good attorney. i think that N would have gotten sole custody if i didn't have a good attorney. i will not be getting a lot of child support but enough to get by for now. will be looking for a part time job once this nightmare is over to make up for the rest.
another advice which will become habit after a while: NC. as much as you can. communication w/ N gives him power so avoid it as much as you can. i'm trying to raise a toddler via minimal email contact and so far it is working ok. N has found another woman, which would explain why i'm succeeding in my NC attempts!
good luck and keep us posted.
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