NARCISSISTIC_PERSONALITY

Tomorrow Fem will have this board as read only. I wrote Fem and asked her to let me say my goodbye and have my closure to this place, which has been my home for seven years. Fem and I created this board together. This board has been my rock to fall back on and my friend and my life line so many times. Us managers are supposed to be so strong for you guys, and so many times I came here not quite sure knowing what to do or say myself. I came to understand what I had been through here and met many friends and sadly many people who were not my friends here. I have had a love and hate relationship here, but never ever did I doubt that I belonged here.

Fem created this board and asked me to manage it with her in 2002. I wasn't sure that I was capable to do something like this to manager a board. I didn't know if I was going to be capable to live a life for me and my boys. But I tredged on pushed by a need to help women understand that it was not their faults that they had encountered Narcissists and psychopaths. I needed them to know I guess in some way to help validate myself too that we were victims of very evil personality disordered men and women. I learned more here than I could by personal therapy.

And I became stronger and I became what I consider to be a good manager. I offered advice, warned against online dating and abuse symptoms and I did a good job. And what is the most cool thing is - is that I learned so much from being here. I am a better for it. I would not take back this experience for anything in the world. To say it's been one helluva ride would be the understatement!

I wish all of you the very best. Many of you never new it, but I was reading your stories and cheering you on all the time.

May all of you take care of yourself and move on and get out of your abusive relationships and never be abused again.

I wish you all the happiest of holidays and hope that I see you again around cyber space sometime.

Thanks Fem for allowing me to say my goodbye to our beloved home. MSN didn't always cooperate, but in the end we knew it would be there when we needed it.

Take care all and the best of luck to you,

WindSong/TJ/Tammy

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femfree

Sent: 30/11/2008 2:08 a.m.

Hi Tammy and everyone.

After so many years, change is difficult. New things come slowly to this old gal and starting up a new site has mixed blessings. The old familiarity had some comfort, but I won't miss the sometimes awkward glitches that came with the MSN format, I'm enjoying the new site and I'm hoping all our members will too. I know I have had many comments from members who are already enjoying it immensely.

I have this quote:

You never change things by fighting the existing reality. To change something, build a new model that makes the existing model obsolete."

~R. Buckminster Fuller

So, we bid farewell to MSN. This will be on read-only basis after tomorrow, and we invite everyone to join us at our new location.

Keep in touch Tammy. We hope to see you at our new location.

Hugs

femfree

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Sent: 30/11/2008 11:34 a.m.

I just want to say thank you to all of you fine ladies , to the managers and to the creators of this board..

I found it by accident when I was posting on a divorce related board, trying to figure out what was wrong in my marriage, and my life, and with me that my husband would treat me so badly.. It all became so clear, as I was directed to this site and learned about what had become my life for the past 20 years..I don't think I would have had the strength and certainly not the knowledge to leave my husband and remain NC, had it not been for this site..

I know that others have also been give the gift of freedom and a new and wonderful life..I am still going through a brutal divorce. But I had been wisely advised what to expect, right down to the hoovering, smear campaigns and more hoovering.. My motto has been "NC, no matter what.." and it has been the best defense and the key to moving on ..

Love to all of you here on the board, and to those who were inspirational to me.. Alot of tears shed and friendships were formed here ..

God bless. PJ

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From:

Zlata2614

Sent: 30/11/2008 1:25 p.m.

To Wind song, Femfree,

Thank you very much for doing a great , and immense job, in managing this board. I believe it could not be easy and at times could have been frustrating, but YOU were there.

I wish you ALL the luck in the future Windsong, and thanks for posting, it gave an old board a "human" goodbye.

Aa for you Femfree, I admire and respect your hard work and tireless guidance, it is comforting and reassuring.

Regards, Zlata

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