Misspleaser,

 

Excellant post. Thank you.  Your so right. All my life I have attracted bad men mostly.  When I found this web site last year, it all began to fit like a puzzle. My dad is an N and emotionally absent from my life. So I have tried to find my dad in the men I attract. Blech....I am over it. I have been working hard with a therapist to begin to love myself and develop some self esteem. N's destroy what little we do have. But at least now I know what these people are and how not to attract them hopefully in the future.