SV says a fair bit about smothering. That it is narcissistic behaviour. Also that it damages the child emotionally. This has sprung out of something that I have just read. I know about this in vague theory - but it has not been my focus up to now. I came here 3 years ago to recover from the N. I am pretty sure I have come very close to smothering my son - who is now 19.
What I want to know is what is it actually like as the child to experience this - what constitutes smothering - can you explain - give some examples - so I can decide whether I did or not. I would very very much appreciate it.
Also I suppose any suggestions about how I should act now to try to repair some damage or what to expect in the future. He is going off to University and I'm already booking the bereavement counselling (only joking). Worrying and guilt, by the way, seem to be my partners in life!!
My son is asking for counselling - I know some of this will probably be about me. With him having an N father I over compensated and put a huge amount into him. He was totally my world. There's more stuff of course - there always is.
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