This reminds me of an email I recieved recently from a very Nsih friend.  It was entitled "to my children".  Was done to music so you'd  get that feel good emotional aspect of it.  And it was all about how children are suppose to treat their elderly parents because of all parents did for the kids when they were small.  "Don't be impatient when food runs down my chin, remember all the times I wiped your butt when you were a baby". 

 

Wow, some kids really don't get a free ride at all!  Mine do.  My goal is to have happy healthy kids, who CHOOSE to do for me what and when they want because they love me.  Not because they are being balckmailed.  They could put me in a home and visit once a month, and if they were happy and doing good by thier own kids, that would be fine with me. 

 

My mother doesn't rmember spanking me, or putting me in a dark basement, or telling me all about the boogeyman and where he lives.  She never screamed at me or called me names.  She never took all my drawers out and dumped them on the floor because my room was messy.  She was perfect.  And even if she did some mean stuff, I deserved it. 

 

I have very limited contact with her.  There are alot of times I can't be bothered with how crummy she tries to make me feel.  But it's subtle....you can't really call her on it.  It s the tone of voice or the subtle things she says that lets me know how I do not add up.   

 

I've always said that I would look at the way she trats her mother, and treat her the same.  My Grma is 91 and going strong!  other than breaking her hip and being kept down for that time, Grma is a wonder and will probably go peacefully in her sleep when the time comes.    Well, Nmom has Nbro to keep her company.   He is the Golden child, the one who never left who can do no wrong (lies cheats and steals, but we'll just sweep that under the rug)