TY Lost-i,
The judge denied our 'Motion to adopt the report of the Guardian' - AND according to our atty, it was the "new PARENTING PLAN" submitted WITH it, which was the dealbreaker.
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In the regular 7:15 pm ph call to S7 last night:
MINE: Hi, S7 name
S7: (sobbing and distressed) "Huhha huhha hi dad..." (breath catches indrawing)
MINE: what's the matter, you sound sad?
S7: My mom just hit me, in my APPENDIX....
STBXNW (in bkgnd) "I hit you on yer butt"
MINE: hello? hello? hello? hellOOOOH?
(rattle rattle rattle - CLICK - bzzzzzzzzzzz)
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YUP the phone call was terminated on HER end, because S7 was talking to his Dad about her having hit him - soooo, "whatcha gonna DO??? whatcha gonna do when they come for you?"
We looked up the after hours ph number to their local precinct - called them - gave them info about how this is a custody battle, that CUSTODY has NOT been decided, that S7 just said that his mom hit him in his appendix (since our court record contains along laundry list of HER slugging MY guy - twice broke his ribs, threw a basketball in his face another time and broke his glasses, on his FACE, etc) - that we were concerned for the child's safety; gave them their addy, description details on both parties, plus our contact info.
S7 called back while we were on ph with cops - he left us a voice mail - we saved that... ("Maybe it didn't happen, or at least not how I remember it"- click) - then S7 called back, saying to check the VM - AFTER we got off ph with cops and they were already on their way to HER place.
About 7:55 pm (S7 "allegedly" has an 8 pm bedtime) - S7 calls back - we're both trying to emphasize to him the IMPORTANCE of telling the truth! (without telling him that the cops were on their way....!)
About 8:15 cop calls and says it was "just a spanking and parents do have the right to hit their kids" - <<<< LAW ENFORCEMENT??? riiiiight...we've read the RCW's and we know what the LAW says - butt-spanking IS allowed - slugging in the stomach is NOT...!
The cop didn't say if they'd TALKED to the S7, however. I'm sure her mealy-mouthed, soft spoken, wouldn't-say-sh!t-if-her-mouth-WAS-full-of-it" Narcissist - played it off as "just a misunderstanding...it was only a spanking...."
We thanked them for their prompt response - at least it IS on the record NOW that they've been called to HER place to investigate ... which even if "unfounded," in the police report, she has now admitted to hitting him.
(This would be laughable, since SHE, after her big old BLOG RANT about me, accusing me of hitting her kids:
"IT IS NOT OKAY FOR HER (meaning me) to EVER hit MY kids"
[NO??? but apparently it's ok for YOU to SLUG whoever PISSES you off for whatever reason...!]
This she ranted on for (LIES of a pathological LIAR!!!!) about three pages, attributing said source of information to the EX-BF she had formerly HAD LIVING in this marital home the year before, staying with HER in the MASTER bedroom, sleeping with her in the bed her HUSBAND bought!
Her ex-bf came for a visit HERE, for ONE NIGHT, since he was going to be a camp-counsellor at a week-long school camp at the end of her OTHER (S11) kids' school year.
He saw NOTHING of the sort here, everything was COOL when he was here. He even complimented me on my housekeeping ("Whoa, I can walk thru the living room...! AND.....the BATHROOM is SO CLEAN!!!! "), my org-skills ("my gawd, even the storage containers are organized! I can ACTUALLY find stuff in these cupboards - and it's organized by kitchen task and FLOW!") and cooking (may I have some of the leftovers tonight to take on the camping trip...?) !!!!
He talked with her *briefly* that same night during the boys' nightly ph call TO their mother - and I could overhear him backpedalling and OBVIOUSLY NOT wanting to go see her at her new place in ___WA Metropolitan area___ - he was all "reason after reason, this excuse and that excuse " and obviously SOOOOOo NOT wanting to go up there...she had already had her "next mark" living with her for three or four months at that time...he was DONE with her, but had committed to this camp-counsellor thing in January (for a June 06 weeklong camp) just after she'd left HERE and BEFORE she got her "next mark" moved in with her.
And that is just ONE of the 10,000 things she's pulled in the past 2.5 years...going on three...!
So - our next step - is to get the papers filled out and filed, requesting the Settlement Conference (THAT'LL be an exercise in futility, except for maybe ordering her to get the car we're paying for refi's in her name and I happen to know that her credit is maxxed out!) - which should happen in 6 to 8 weeks; then AFTER the SC, we can schedule the TRIAL - our County has a glaring shortage of judges and it could be calendared anywhere from 6 months to a full year away; AND even THEN, it is subject to getting BUMPED from the calendar for Criminal cases...BER!
Anyhow - just wanted to update, rant, entertain - since I'd be losing my flippin' mind, if I didn't....!
Thanks all for your prayers and support - i/we appreciate it....
~BMOGS~
may you all find the advice and inspiration YOU need herein.
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and yet, somehow is NOT very successful or "street-smart" about ANYTHING....
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