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i will try not to post for a couple of weeks and just do NC. i will ask myself the WHY! i need to understand the hold of the N. for i have been in relationships good & bad, & have ended them and NEVER looked back. what is it about this one????what does he see in me or i see in him that binds me. so in the next weeks i will reflect and go to therapy. my family like i said is in full support and craves to have the old me back. my aunt tells me she is always aware when the N & are are on the outs---she starts to see the old me coming up for air..........she told me that today when my family did an intervention on me to get me to start the NC ball rolling for good this time...please pray for me i WAS am such a generous, successful, smart, kind & loving person. now i know i am still that when i am away but now i am so much stronger......he is my weakness and strength. i will post at 21 days NC.......until then.
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| | From:  OzGirl57 | Sent: 17/11/2008 9:43 a.m. |
<WBR>Hey eyes!
I am only into the 4th day nc but already feel so much better. I have tried nc before and always failed. This time I put some safeguards in place; I put call blocker on my phone which tells him I am not accepting calls at this time. I changed my cell phone number so I KNOW I cannot call him or he would have my number again from caller ID. I can't call him from my land line because I don't have long distance. I'm calling friends (one, mainly, my guy friend who is my best friend), when I get the urge to contact him. Actually, I haven't had the urge and feel a great relief!!!!!! I really really believe I'm on my way to total freedom from n this time. I can't do it anymore. I can't take the lies, cheating, ect., because I was beaten to a pulp. You can do this! And don't wait 21 days to write to us. I hope you know about the new forum at Runboard. We are all here to help each other, so please don't go away and try to do this alone. Not saying you can't do it, but, if you are anything like me, you will have moments where you need to vent.
My guy friend gets me laughing about the craziness of the n. It's great therapy. He helps me see it for what it is and helps me realize I deserve so much more. No human being should have to go through what ns put us through! It is crazy and evil! It's the devil at his worst!
Good luck to you! You can do this! I can do this! We don't need this garbage in our lives any more. I will pray for you! You can do this one too and "never look back". We have to or we will slowly die a very painful death. Being with an n is not living; it's dying.
OzGirl
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Subject: ok then, WHY do we tolerate the N's behavior?
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i will try not to post for a couple of weeks and just do NC. i will ask myself
the WHY! i need to understand the hold of the N. for i have been in
relationships good & bad, & have ended them and NEVER looked back. what is it
about this one????what does he see in me or i see in him that binds me. so in
the next weeks i will reflect and go to therapy. my family like i said is in
full support and craves to have the old me back. my aunt tells me she is always
aware when the N & are are on the outs---she starts to see the old me coming up
for air..........she told me that today when my family did an intervention on me
to get me to start the NC ball rolling for good this time...please pray for me i
WAS am such a generous, successful, smart, kind & loving person. now i know i am
still that when i am away but now i am so much stronger......he is my weakness
and strength. i will post at 21 days NC.......until then.
eyes
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We tolerate it because
We think they will change back into Prince Charming,
They convince us that we caused them to do the things they do.
We think if we try harder they will love us and not torment us.
We don't like to loose to other women, because they have manipulated us into hating one another with their lies. Lies we shouldn't believe, because most of us don't even know the OW. We all know that the N is a compulsive liar.
We fear being alone and It's not all bad, thats how they confuse us.
This all BS but it takes months of NC to realize it.
Now Lets start a thread of WHY WE SHOULDN'T TOLERATE the N's BEHAVIOR! |
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