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From: XtraMSN Nicknamenobodysfool3756Sent: 27/11/2008 2:31 p.m.
MFAL, I replied to your post on the new board, but I see you've added a bit to this post.

May I put my two cents worth in again?

You say, "I feel like he's just punishing me for rejecting him..." Well, of course he is! You inflicted an N injury on him. He is going to strike back. That is what Ns do! If you keep seeing him and interacting with him, you will either go back to him for more of the same, or you will continue to inflict N injuries on him because you *don't* go back. An injured N is a dangerous N. This guy has nothing but time. The longer you hang around in the same places, the more he will up the ante. He has nothing to lose. You do.

I know you don't want to leave your club, but you know what? Sometimes you have to choose the lesser of two evils. This guy is unstable and possibly dangerous (certainly to your reputation if not to your very life). There is a price to pay for tangling with these creatures (and the more time you put into it, the higher the price). Leaving a club you like to preserve your reputation (and possibly your freedom, if he keeps running to the cops) is a small price to pay for tangling with an N for two years.

You ask, "I'm not interested in someone so that makes me a stalker?" It sounds to me like you are VERY interested in this guy. You posted two long messages about him on both boards this morning. You think about him. A lot. All that business of you calling him, texting him, him not returning your calls or texts. He tells you you are abusive and crazy and yet you go on to leave him a long voice mail? Why would you not take the hint and leave him alone?

You know he's an N. I know he's an N. And I know full well how crazymaking Ns can be... but the cops don't know he's an N. If he saves the texts he considers "abusive" and plays your long voice mails for the police, and tells them he doesn't return your calls or texts but "she just keeps on harassing me"... well, you see how this makes you look.

You can't act as though the NC rules don't apply to you and expect everything to work out well. He's either an N or he's not. If he's an N (and you've certainly convinced ME he is!), then NC is the only safe and sane way to peace and freedom. Going to the same places he goes is playing with the disordered N. Nothing good can possibly come of that.
Find a different chapter and go complete NC. You will be getting off easy.

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MFAL wrote, "Control people through intimidation. He's behaving like the very people he left behind. Not good!"

No, of course it's not good... but it tells you what you are dealing with. He is what he is. You can't change him and you can't control him. All you can do is stay out of his way. If you try to warn other women about him, he can charge you with slander or libel on top of the stalking and harassment accusations.

The only way to win with an N is not to play.

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From: XtraMSN NicknamefemfreeSent: 27/11/2008 4:06 p.m.
Hi Moving...
 
You write...
I have to be selfish and not worry about the future women he will do this to
 
Churches and other such organizaton are drawing cards for Ns and no, you cannot save the world from these predators.  In fact, there are so many lonely dependent women out there that Ns have little difficulty finding new targets.  save yourself - get out as you indicate.
 
I don't know your religion, but I do know that the Christian Holy Bible gives us all the tools we need to recognize and defeat these people on an individual basis.
 
 
What we need to do is to learn to spot these creatures and don't make it your personal crusade to try to warn others. In fact, even the most mediocre Ns will already have pre-empted you by going around telling people that you are making false statements and lies about him. So, when in fact you do try to warn them, all you will be doing is validating them.  It's the cruelest kind of thing isn't it?
 
Learn as much as you can as fast as you can and protect yourself financially and emotionally.
 
If you search the google thingy you'll find a lot of information on predators in cults and religions.
 
It hasn't stopped me from being in fact a strong Christian, but I can spot a cruising N much better, and, they can spot me too.
 
Don't remain in the muck of NPD, get out and live a life free of them knowing they lurk out there. Don't try to save the world. Give yourself permission to walk away.
 
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Our Father, which art in heaven,
Hallowed be thy name.
Thy kingdom come.
Thy will be done in earth as it is in heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread.
And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive them that trespass against us.
And lead us not into temptation, But deliver us from evil.
For thine is the Kingdom, the power, and the glory,
For ever and ever. Amen.
 
 
 
 
 
 

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From: XtraMSN Nicknamenobodysfool3756Sent: 27/11/2008 6:53 p.m.
AMEN, Sister!!!!!

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From: XtraMSN Nicknamemad120780Sent: 28/11/2008 1:07 a.m.
amen and peace,

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