I was also distraught that my N was with OW he even married her, I was gutted but 12 months down the track he is not happy and she doesnt know what A'hole he really is. He has tried to be in contact with me over the last two years. Every three months he tries to get my attention. I just ignore him. He would play up on her just as he did to me. She doesn't have it any better than I did. But I realised I am not missing out I am free of all the indecent behaviour, lies, degredation and all the rest. She still has to put up with him and he will throw her out of his life just like he did me and then cry poor me and try to recycle the last ex he had before her, which by the way was me. I wouldn't have him back if he was the last man on the planet. Just be greatful that he is off the street and can't ruin anyone else's life or yours. Get out have fun read books and grow learn and be grateful that you are free of him.. It really is better away from them once you believe it.