I'd like to here from any men that are with N wifes.

I suspect that my wife is an N.  I been trying to figure out whats going on for many years, and when I came accross NDP, it was an eye opener.  She fit that picture right to a T. 

You know those talk show and how they cut up men, will I here lots about thoughs.  You know how men can do things right, house work, communication, listening, cheaters, etc etc.  As per her comment, All men are the same.  And it's not from me not trying.  I have learnt that it doesn't matter what I do, she just will not acknowledge it, just continues to complain to everyone.  Of course, I also have learnt that setting things straight just makes things worst.  Its hard to listen to people telling you support her more, and unable to tell these people my side of the story. 

Laundry - everyone here about how I don't laundry, no hears about the time I did, and my wife dumped the basket because it wasn't done right.  Everyone here's how I done cook supper for her, but no one hears about the times I did and she pushed the plate away.  and it goes on and on.  lately, she has been attacking my psyche.  It taking its toll on me. 

Lately, she's been tell me about all the bad things everyone is saying about me.  I had to see for my self and confronted one of these people.  It wasn't quate the same story.  A couple days later, one of my best freind was told by my wife "because your mother was an alcoholic, my family has a problem that we get drunk and cheat on our wives."  The only truth in that statment is, my mom was an alcoholic.  Other than that, it really bother me to the core that she said that, an to my best friend yet.

I've been accused of cheat for years now, everytime I step out of the house by myself, to the point that I don't leave the house anymore. And it funny, I'll tell her what I'm doing, where i'm going, and she can at anytime stop by unannounced.  Before hand she Ok with it, she happy that I getting out, it after when I come back, I get cheater thrown in my face.

One of the worst things that she pulls, She gets our children involved with her dirty work.  It's just wrong to pit your childred aginst a parent. and at 4 and 6, this is just wrong.

The stories I could tell you, and some of them are just so unbelievable, that I have a hard time believing them. 

I have started to realize that most of the things she is accussing me of are actually things that she is doing.  Communication is one of them.

 

I am thinking of leaving, and have been preparing alittle bit.  I know this is going to be hell to go through and I really feel for my children and what they will indurer.  I do have some aces up my sleave, one of them is counsoling.  This is her worst fear.  I know, After 6 monthes of her threating me with this and how she was alway cancelling the appontment because of me, I made the appontment.  We went twice, and she have no more of it and doesn't approve of me going by myself. 

As far as me taking the children, will she cover that base to, I am a real bad parent according to every else.  She's done a good job of distoring me.  And Im understand alot of things that shes has told me, like how hard her life was/is, the only people you an trust is your immentant family, and how people did her wrong, like her last boyfriend.  And is see why.

 

It would be nice to hear from amn who is or has gone throught a divorce from an N, to help me prepare for the upcoming events, accussions,etc.

 

Thanks