Well, two books that I've read on co-dependency are by Melodie Beatty and they're entitled Co-Dependent No More and Beyond Co-Dependence. 

 

And good for you for considering what your problem might be rather focusing on what his problem is. 

 

It's just my opinion, but I think we all need to be needed.  We just need to know where to draw the line. 

 

I know I delivered one helluva narcissistic injury when I left the n.  And it hurt my heart to see him suffering.  But I had to save my own life.  And he will survive. 

 

Better that I work on myself (and you do the same) than to "hang in there," hoping for a miracle that will probably never happen. 

 

They are manipulators, and they will manipulate their way through life just fine.  I put 1000 miles between me and the n.  I won't be running into him in the grocery store.  And when the phone rings, I ignore it.  I feel better every day. 

 

GN