Bicycle-  I am in the same boat but I've been in NC much longer.  I obsseively think about him, dream about him and no matter what I do I can't get rid of thoughts of him.  Sure there are some days that I think of him less but in general, a day doesn't go by when I don't think, what is he doing? Does he think of me, doeshe miss me?  Can we ever be friends again?  I don't know what to do either.  Therapist says it will fade over time but for me its been 1year and 7 months NC and I still obssess over this.  Heartborkengp91